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the blindsiding moments

I don’t believe in coincidences. There’s too much that goes into a moment—too many factors—to pretend that something means nothing. It’s not random. It’s not happenstance. There are a handful of things, at the very least, that aligned, which results in a Thing Happening.

Yesterday, on my way home from work, I drove past—literally—someone I haven’t spoken to in a while, someone I have been thinking about. Someone who I miss, for a million reasons. The person was in the lane next to me, and there was this shock of recognition, as I leaned forward, “Is that…? It is.” But then, I drove through the intersection, and that was that.

This person isn’t someone I ordinarily run across. But things like this have happened in the past, in instances where it should’ve been impossible. Or, at the very least, highly unlikely. And yet. And still.

That happened. This small moment, literally at a crossroads. And it really got me thinking, more so than usual. Because so much has happened lately, and some of it isn’t mine to tell, but they’re the blindsiding moments that take your breath away. Sucker punches to the soul, the kind of things that make you stop, force you to stop and think about your life.

Are you doing what you want? Are you doing what you love? Are you with the person you love? Are you allowing yourself to be loved? Are you open to it? Are you open, period? (If the answer to any of these is “no,” then that’s something to think about.)

There are no guarantees. There is right now. And right now, whether or not we know or acknowledge it, we’re all at a crossroads. Every moment is a choice point. Every second is an opportunity. Seize it.

Because everyone has that person, right? That person you can’t stop thinking about. Maybe your reminders are less literal, less in-your-face than mine. But when it’s quiet, when the world stops demanding things of you, when it’s just you and your thoughts: what’s occupying them? Who’s occupying them? That thing your heart and your head on settle on?

Make the choice to bring it into your life. Because there’s just this moment, there’s only right now.

  1. November 4, 2015 at 11:23 am

    Seize it, yes, but remember the taking of the moment, the choice, may become someone else’s blindsiding moment. All action causes a reaction.

    • November 4, 2015 at 11:25 am

      I’m a little confused by your comment. Did I imply that actions don’t have reactions?

      • November 4, 2015 at 11:32 am

        You didn’t. But the seize and the choices and the reaching for what we want is often hindered by the reality that we can’t always have what we want. Acceptance of that truth is a choice, too. I’m merely using your post to consider what Changes I’d like to make and how those changes might “blindside” someone else. Maybe instead of “seize” I’ll move in the direction of “consider…” -Ret

  2. Robyn Hayes
    November 7, 2015 at 2:42 pm

    Since February it has been one of those moments day to day. Continuing illness of a close family member, imminent death of a dearly loved friend, passing of a beloved animal, birth of new life on the farm have all pointed me to THIS MOMENT. Grab it. Hug it Love it. Take the fallout, whatever it is and move on to the next moment that much wiser, that much more open. This is a great post. I shall save it 🙂 Thank you.

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