On Doors, Being Open, and Kindness
How do you open? Much of life is too often spent curled up tight, not letting things in – and ignoring feelings. Tamping down whatever might tip the apple cart, simply as an attempt to cut off or avoid a situation. It’s only every temporary. Denial is a transitory solution. You cannot stay closed for a lifetime.
So, when everything is shut tight, when you’re walling yourself off, how do you stop? How do you open?
Small steps and kindness. Kindness, honest words, and love. I think, at the end of the day, you can open any door that way. Take small steps in the direction that you want, and that’s progress. Often, though, we are apt to be kind to ourselves – and less kind to ourselves. For me, I am my own worst enemy. I will champion the hell out of you and your feelings, while sometimes mine leave me feeling inept and decidedly idiotic.
In life, there are always doors – places we can go, steps we can take. The doors might be closed. It might look like a dead end. You might assume, “This can’t happen.” After all, a closed door is hardly an invitation. And yet, doors can always be opened – the question is: how?
For this, I see two possibilities, generally. Brute force will open a door – but it will break it in the process. Strong-arming your way somewhere may get you to where you want to be, but it might not be the situation you wanted or expect. You don’t want to break what you love, so it is often to fight with a kind emotion – working from a place of love. You’re not trying to win. It’s not about winning. No pursuit in life should be something you check off a list. You should, simply, be following your passion.
But the best, truest way to open a door is be open yourself. Doorways go both ways. So, follow your heart. Let that little monster lead. Be that person who dares to feel passion and pursue. Perhaps all you need to do to change a situation is to look at it from a place of honesty, openness, and acceptance.
Nothing has to be one way. Nothing has to stay the same. There are infinite doors and infinite stars, darling. Be open. Say yes. And good things will happen.