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the impossible girl

February 27, 2013 Leave a comment


this morning is full of rain, a day
better spent in bed, two bodies
coiled together like snakes, both
of us shedding skins, swallowing
secrets for sustenance, crawling
back toward one another,
testing the air and tasting home.

this morning, and all others, reminds
me of you. I think of the way people drown.
I think of the way people love –
they are two sides of a coin
that pays for nothing, and yet
whose value is limitless.

this morning, I am reaching
for your voice; this morning, I am
the impossible girl
with a constellation in her heart,
leaving just enough stardust
for you to find your way.

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February 26, 2013 Leave a comment

This morning, I found myself searching for a word I couldn’t find, the ghost of yesterday’s mascara underneath my eyes. It is strange how some moments seem to count more than others, how a single feeling can stretch out for an eternity, encompassing everything that it touches. In that instance, all the words stop struggling; sentences are entirely rearranged, until idea of language becomes something else. Something tactile, something sacred. A science of atoms, splitting. The way the wind blows through a chime, music lingering the distance. The warm quiet of blankets first thing in the morning. A Sunday spent without obligation.

For this, there are no adjectives, only shadows of them. For this, there are no explanations, only the pale distance between breathes. All definitions have been rendered useless. All equations found perfectly solved. The key is a single word, polished like a diamond. It turns a lock. It slips a chain. It opens a door and shatters a window.

Sometimes, the things we let ourselves believe are the most dangerous. We place our faith in our hearts, not because it is easy or simple. It is because we realize the power in a single ripple, a star found in the sky, when everything has else has faded into the night. Ultimately, what we believe in is what we hold highest. And where there’s truth and trust, there is strength. There’s making the impossible, possible.

What is more miraculous than that?

Categories: prose, Random Musings

when you cannot even trust yourself

February 23, 2013 8 comments

Who do you trust, when you shouldn’t trust anyone? Better yet, who do trust when you can’t trust yourself?

When the foundation of your world is shaken – you lose your job, your identity, or the love of your life – it changes a person. Essentially, you feel alone. Suddenly, you don’t know what’s right, anymore. Up looks like down, and down is sideways. It is a dangerous thing, when you cannot trust yourself, because you are hurting, and betrayed, and feeling off-kilter. In Thursday’s Scandal (Boom Goes the Dynamite), everyone is unsure of who to trust, and because of that, possibly trusting the wrong people.

Huck is suffering from the aftereffects of his waterboarding. It is revealed that his trauma has left him unable to shower in the rain. Quinn confronts him about the fact that he smells, and it’s revealed that he’s been having panic attacks. He assures her that he’ll be fine — after the rain stops. And who, in that moment, didn’t want to hug him? Huck can’t trust himself not to freak out, so he avoids the situation – the shower – that would trigger it. Damaged as he is, that is a sound logic.

We come to discover that a panicked David Rosen is relying heavily on Olivia Pope and Associates. He has no one else. They uncover a mole in the CIA, possibly something/someone called Albatross, and a random friend of Wendy’s appears to assure David that she knows he didn’t her. (Not entirely sure I trust random, crazy-eyed lady. But we’ll see.) Fitz is relying on Jake to monitor (STALK) Olivia, claiming that she is not what she seems. Jake and Fitz clearly have a personal relationship, initially talking and drinking like two old friend do. This is the man who took surveillance photos of Olivia and Edison. The trouble is that Jake seems to be inexplicably drawn to Liv. Liv, despite her best efforts and protestations, appears to be warming up to him. This is a serious breach of trust on all fronts. But we’ll get to that in a minute.

In the White House, we find that Fitz is still behaving like a directionless moron, taking Mellie’s advice – which we come to find out is not actually her advice at all. She’s been using Cyrus as an idea farm, pleading with him about not knowing how to handle Fitz, only to take Cyrus’s idea and pass them off as her own. Mellie is shred as hell, but a political animal is no match for a political monster. Cyrus takes Olivia’s advice and lets Mellie figurative hang herself, because she a) has no idea how to really HANDLE Fitz, b) always oversteps boundaries and her duties, and c) has all the political savvy of a parking meter. In one deft scene, Fitz finds out Mellie went behind his back, breached his trust (tenuous as it may be), and fumbled the political ball with ardent fervor. Mellie realized that Cyrus knows what she’s been doing, and that he hand a hand in her own undoing. But it’s too late. Fitz gives her a “That will be all” brush off (BOOM). From here on out, we expect that Fitz will again rely on Cyrus, and hopefully, equilibrium is not far behind. 

Additionally, a well-established political family, the Caldwells, hires OPA to get one of them elected Governor; rumor has it that Will is gay, so Olivia is tasked to arrange a political marriage. Conveniently, and probably not accidental on Fitz’s part, the President is the keynote speaker at a Caldwell fundraiser, which had Olivia in attendance. While the two of them did not cross paths, Fitz’s face crumbled when he spied her on the phone with Jake, smiling and blushing (BOOM). Jealousy contorted his features into a shocking picture of disbelief. Fitz is the epitome of horrible, insane jealousy. He may say that he doesn’t want her. He may say that her actions were unforgivable, but he’s only letting her go in name – not in reality. He needs to know what she’s doing, and how she is, despite their strange separation. He claims not to want her, and yet…he’s doing the Presidential version of driving by your ex’s house at 3am, hoping to glimpse a silhouette. Honestly, the video surveillance is creeptastic and not cool at all. And yet, as Fitz mentioned, he didn’t count on the isolation of the White House and his position. In the past ten months, his whole world fell down around him, he’s drinking in the shower, and he’s separated – by his choice – from the love of his life. These kind of soul-shaking tragedies make people stupid. He has a hell of a lot of power and authority. Jealousy does not mix well with that kind of thing. I can’t imagine what Liv is going to do when she finds out what he’s done – and that Jake has been watching her.

During the fundraiser, something interesting comes to light. The would-be governor is not, in fact, gay – he’s having an affair with his brother’s wife. They are in love, and Olivia stumbles across them kissing in a rose garden, not unlike her and Fitz’s special spot. (Hi, symbolism. Thanks for beating us over the head.) Furiously, Liv unleashes a tirade at him, one that unmistakably applies/parallels her relationship to Fitz.

BOOM. You have nothing. And it’s achingly, horribly true in that moment. Liv sees herself in this, and she was the statue – willing to wait for something that may never have materialized. She put her life on hold for a man she loved, and it blew up in her face. In that moment, Liv is bitter. She is angry. She is mad at herself.

Incidentally, the last interesting piece of this episode was a second meeting between Jake and Fitz, after the fundraiser. Fitz, seething like the green eye’d monster, wants to know who the guy is. He saw Liv on the phone. He knows that look. And he’s way past ticking; the time bomb in a teddy bear is in pieces.

Jake lies to Fitz, claiming that there is no guy, because HE is the guy. And it would a serious breach is security etiquette to reveal that he’s trying to woo his target. Jake, for all intents and purposes, is not a bad guy. He’s doing a job. Who hasn’t accidentally fallen in love (or infatuation) with someone they work with? Yes, the circumstances are messed up, and I am by no means Team Jake/Liv – but I like Jake. He’s got a heart. He turns off the cameras when Liv gets undressed. He’s not a creepy stalker asshole looking to get cheap thrills. Needless to say, Fitz is abusing his power, because he can’t control his erections or his heart. It’s wrong. It’s bad. It’s fifty different kinds of fucked and ridiculous. But it’s not a boiled bunny. Not yet, at least. But this is, unquestionably, CRAZYPANTS.

Trust is a funny thing. Liv broke Fitz’s trust with Defiance. Now, Fitz is breaking hers with this whole stalker by proxy thing. I wonder how this will explode, and it will explode. They’ll either forgive each other the stupid wrongs they’ve rendered – or they will continue to widen the physical chasm between themselves. This, folks, is what happens when you have a failure to communicate. You get stupid. This is what happens when you don’t know who you should trust, and you can’t trust yourself. You get crazy. Most people have enough common sense not to semi-stalk their exs. But when you’re having the worst time of your life, you have no one to learn on, your wife is Lady Macbeth and Iago rolled into one, and you’re in charge of running a country (hello, stress!) – normal goes out the window. Personally, someone or something needs to slap some sense into Fitz. Because he doesn’t have any. And neither does Liv, because she agreed to a second date with a guy who’s watching her, and her gut hasn’t whispered a hint of danger. Cyrus was foolishly trusting Mellie to return him to Fitz’s good graces, until he had proof that she was full-on Machiavelli-ing him.

Nothing is what it seems. No one is what they seem. There are good intentions and malicious ones. The reasons are there, clearly marked. But the end does not always justify the means. The episode is titled boom goes the dynamite, but I can’t even begin to imagine the aftershocks of all the various explosions. The truth remains that when you cannot trust yourself, all bets are off. And everything is a lit match held in front of a fuse.

Thirteen Ways to Miss Someone

February 20, 2013 3 comments
  1. Every waking moment, like all the oxygen’s been taken out of the room. When you do not wake, you dream. When you dream, you see his/her face.
  2. In every song you hear. The lyrics remind you of everything you want and need.
  3. Between I love you and the silence that follows.
  4. When the car crashes and your heart aches – but does not break.
  5. Quietly, like a pulling tide. Insistent.
  6. When lightning strikes the sand and turns it to glass. You wish you were the lightning. Then you wish you were the sand.
  7. Standing on the edge of a cliff. You want to jump. You want to be pushed. Sometimes, the fall kills you. Sometimes, you fly. (Apologies to Neil Gaiman.)
  8. Madly. Without reservation. As if the top of your head has come off. Suddenly, you can hold nothing in, and so much of you pours out.
  9. Silently, with your back turned and your hands clenched. Because ignoring the feelings make them go away. Only, it doesn’t. Only, it makes it worse.
  10. When you can no longer look at yourself in the mirror, without seeing his/her face. Without conjuring – involuntarily, in a fit of abject longing – the feeling of teeth, lips, and hands.
  11. Stuck in the middle of the moment when you realize that this is a disaster. That you cannot be apart. That you do not know how to say it or how to ask.
  12. In the dark, before you fall asleep, when the house is quiet and there’s nothing to distract you.
  13. When all your fears are screaming at you, but you just smile at them. They are nothing in the face of what you feel. What you feel is everything.

Step Right Up, and Lose Your Dignity: On Buying a Date

February 17, 2013 1 comment

The other day, I was watching television, when my eyes were accosted by an ad for It is, for the love of all that is holy, a dating site in which “generous” people bid on dates with “beautiful” people. So, that narrows it down. Because if you’re cheap and ugly, you’re out of luck.

…seriously, WHAT? Go ahead and take a look at that site. Prepare for your IQ to drop at least twenty points, your blood pressure to skyrocket, and your sense of indignation to hit its zenith. Basically, how it works is you upload a profile, a person bids on a first date, and you accept it. I suppose if you are one of the generous folks, you troll for a date, place a bid and wait.

Because nothing says HEALTH RELATIONSHIP like having to PAY FOR IT. And, ladies, if you’re worried about a Date Fail, fear not! The About section quells your terrors, “Even if your date turns out to be a dud, you will be compensated for your time.” Essentially, you are a HOOKER. So, haul out your Vivian boots, slap on a blonde wig, and get thee to the Regent Beverly Wilshire.

First of all, this just makes me sad. It says terrible things about self-worth on all sides. It commodifies beauty in a strange, insulting way. This also implies that there is less of an emphasis on the appearance of a “generous” person, because he/s she has money. So, it doesn’t matter if your personality is wretched, as long as you’ve got a big wallet or a pretty face.

The website also has a section for testimonials, where you can read what “real people are saying.” Thanks for clarifying that, because I was TOTALLY thinking that there would be a testimonial section for robots, chairs, and mannequins. (Which makes sense, because this feels like a messed up episode of the Twilight Zone. Eye of the Beholder on CRACK.) In the section, the word “gentleman” was thrown around a lot, to the point where I am certain it did not mean what they thought it meant. One woman talks about how her date paid her $200, flew her to the state in which he lived, and paid for a hotel room. This is a stranger, flying you around. A person you do not know. Guys, this is how a bad Lifetime movie starts, where a girl gets murdered and everyone talks about how the guy was such a sweet GENTLEMAN, you never would’ve suspected he secretly ate BABIES. This kind of thing is romanticized stupidity. The thing your mother warns you about. This is getting into a van with a stranger to help him find his lost puppy. And puppy is a euphemism.

The site advises the users to pay half of the agreed upon amount up front and half after the date. Because nothing says CLASSY like trying ensure that your date doesn’t dine and dash! Also, CASH is KING (their phrasing – I shit you not!), and one is advised not to accept personal checks. Maybe because this is tantamount to prostitution and that’s illegal, except at the Bunny Ranch.

Lastly, the website boasts that it isn’t a new concept by any means, implying that it is merely incentive dating. (Anyone want a biscuit? Sit. Stay. Roll over.) The site wants you to think that this is totally awesome, even wholesome, because hey! It’s just like a charity auction: This isn’t a new concept, celebrities and firemen have been participating in dating auctions for decades. The only difference here is that the money isn’t going to charity.” But, um, isn’t the charity party the whole redeeming aspect? Otherwise, you are a hooker. GUYS. LADIES. WHAT THE HELL?

Going on a dating site is one thing. BIDDING ON WOMEN IS DIFFERENT. I would be just as livid if the reverse was true: if “generous” (read: rich) women were bidding on hot guys? It is still outrageous. And not in a good, Jem and the Holograms kind of way. People aren’t meant to be purchased. We are not cows. We are not slaves. And sure, signing up is voluntary. It’s not as if you’re being forced, but I cannot imagine a justifiable reason to do this. You go on a date with someone to enjoy their company, to get to know them – NOT to earn extra pocket cash and get a free meal. That’s not dating. That’s Hot Girl ebay. And it is a WORLD of NO.

To answer the question, “What’s your price?” Honey, you couldn’t fucking afford me.

what’s done is NOT done: whiskey, tango, foxtrot

February 16, 2013 10 comments

Trust is a fragile thing. It is something that people must earn, must continue to earn – and, once lost, it’s not a thing easily gained back. We surround ourselves with people that we trust, trusting them to various degrees. And yet, what happens when one person breaks that trust? Then, another. And then, finally another. It’s not one, singular pain. It’s total devastation. In relationships, we take people for who they are, see them as they are, and gauge our levels of trust accordingly. This is the danger, I suppose, to putting someone up on a pedestal. Eventually, inevitably, that person is made to fall. That is a hard thing to recover from.

On Thursday’s Scandal (Whiskey Tango Foxtrot), Fitz is reeling. He has lost his grip on himself, on his identity, on his confidence. He’s drinking in the shower in the morning. He doesn’t even react, not really, to the ardent affections of his wife, Mellie. He just wanted whiskey. She wants to give him a blowjob, and he keeps DRINKING, until Cyrus interrupts. Basically, Fitz is every person who has suffered a soul-shattering betrayal. Where getting out of bed is a challenge and regaining perspective seems impossible. Fitz doesn’t get the luxury of spending a month in bed, eating Hagen Daaz and watching bad TV. He’s got a country to run. And we find that he’s seriously off his game. He’s frozen Cyrus out, because he knows the truth about the election. Cyrus, foolishly, turns to Mellie for help – thinking that they are still some kind of bastardized team. And she, only after her own gain ALWAYS, throws Cyrus under the bus, blaming him for the election rigging. “He made us do it.” The Fitz we knew before? He would’ve called bullshit on that. He would’ve recognized Mellie for what and who she is, and known that she was manipulating him. Instead, he asks for her advice on a mission. Then, he follows it, effectively shoving Cy farther into Presidential Siberia (again, brilliantly scripting with the repetition of “Did you need something?”). Listening to Mellie, whose political savvy is lacking, is a terrible decision, and the mission in question is a spectacular failure.

Olivia, on the other hand, is just as broken as Fitz. She is so off of her game that she can’t read people. She may not fall apart in the same way that Fitz does, but she is just as devastated. Approached in a coffee shop by Jake (played by the delightful Scott Foely), he hits on her and she is visibly flattered, unable to see it for what it is: some kind of surveillance. Why? We don’t know. But that was way too coincidental, way too much of a meet-cute to be actual accident. Of course, we discover at the end of the episode that he has cameras all over her apartment AND at OPA. (My first question is when did that happen? And why didn’t Huck notice? You’d think he would be on top of that.) I wonder if Edison has something to do with it. Regardless, Jake ties into Olivia’s current case – which is that someone set poor David Rosen up for murder, killing a woman in his bed. The woman in question is Wendy, a “story-whore,” who made her living by stealing and selling secrets. In turns out that she was in communication with Jake, who works in Intelligence for the Joint Chiefs of Staff.

After ten months (presumably) of not seeing each other, Fitz and Liv are reunited for Ella (Cyrus and James’s ADORABLE daughter) christening. They are godparents. Fitz and Olivia both look entirely stricken when seeing each other for the first time, even more so when they’re hands brush against each other during the ceremony. Afterwards, at the White House, Olivia goes to leave and Fitz follows her, consumed by a whirlwind of powerful emotion. Pulling her into an electrical closet, without a word, they sleep together. Contrasting that scene to the one with Fitz and Mellie in the shower, and you can see the difference between a convenient relationship and one that’s rife with passion. Fitz feels hurt and betrayed, but that doesn’t diminish his feelings of love for Olivia. You can still love someone and hate something they’ve done. That’s what love is, sometimes: forgiveness.

Truthfully, after they’re emotionally charged tryst, Fitz claims that he may not be able to control his erections around her, but that doesn’t mean that he wants her to wait for him. Why bring that up, in that moment? Because when all is said and done, he doesn’t really want to lose her. He is actively trying to wound her, because he’s hurt. And we all lash out at those we love the most, when we are that level of emotional decimation. She tries to apologize for Defiance, and he calls it a betrayal – not a mistake. That is why Fitz is hurting so much, that is why he can’t see or think straight. He feels like the one person who believed in him without exception did not actually believe in him. To borrow an analogy from the show, he found out that there is no Santa Claus, when he thought HE was Santa.

But you know what’s important about that scene? They had a conversation. It may have been short, but they got things out in the open. Each knows where the other stands, and both are clearly miserable with the way that things are. Fitz says one thing, but his actions say something entirely different. He could’ve let Liv leave the party without a word. He didn’t just follow her out of lust. They haven’t spoken, and we all know that when that happens, Fitz turns into a time bomb stuffed into a teddy bear. Tick. Tick. Tick. Liv, time and again, is the only thing that can defuse him. (Okay, that sounded LESS dirty in my head. Moving on…)

After his rendezvous with Liv, we find Fitz and Mellie in the shower together again. This scene is completely awkward, because here are two people who are so disconnected from each other. There’s no love. There’s no passion. She always manages to not see Fitz. She manages to ignore the emotions clearly written on his face, bumbling through “handling” him without paying attention to him. Fitz has a spaz fit, because he doesn’t want to intimate with Mellie. They share the most dispassionate kiss I’ve ever seen (again, WHISKEY!). The entire scene made me uncomfortable, because of the complete lack of emotional connection. Right there, that’s every passionless relationship ever created. That’s Mellie, trying to take advantage of Fitz, by attempting to keep him under her thumb when he’s so clearly vulnerable. Mellie is exploiting that for her own personal gain. In her mind, if she controls Fitz (and he foolishly IS listening to her), she controls the country. That is a scary thought.

We take out our pain on those we are closet to, because we expect them not to run when we’re ugly. We expect them not to turn from us when we’re at our worst, our weakest – when all we see when we look in the mirror is a monster, a failure, a fraud, a person undeserving. When we are as vulnerable as Fitz is, we lean on those we love. But for Fitz, the love of his life has sent him reeling. He’s grappling and grasping, drinking and disassociating – without actually dealing. His pattern is that he drinks when he’s miserable. This is the worst we’ve ever seen him, even considering the time his father spent of his campaign.

It takes time to earn back trust. To build up a willingness to try. The fact remains that without Olivia, Fitz is a weaker person. His gut is off. His instincts are frayed. He’s a lesser version of himself. For Olivia, it is the same. She’s tried to fill the void by keeping busy, by hurling herself into exercise and work. But that only takes the edge off. It does not negate the problem, the heartache, the hole that is doing the foxtrot in her life. Neither is whole without the other. Regardless of the particulars of the situation, they are less when they are apart. This separation is destroying them both, and while Fitz may protest that they are done, one look at those two – one look between those two – proves that could not be further from the truth. And, like dirty little secrets, the truth always comes out.

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fancy pile of excuses

February 14, 2013 Leave a comment


This morning, a good friend was telling me a story. It was a story, had it not been 7:30am, that would’ve gone perfectly with whiskey. Because some things, man, they gut you and leave you gaping like a bloody fish on the floor. The truth is, it hit too close to home, like emotional shrapnel made of Ebola. I won’t go into detail (not my story to tell), but on one hand – it was incredibly sweet and romantic. On the other hand, it was a big, shiny, fancy pile of excuses.

Which made think about a lot of things. How much energy do we spend on the wrong things? On hiding, not talking, not risking, not loving, not trying? How many excuses do we manufacture – yes, manufacture – because we’re terrified or [insert action-stalling emotion here]? We do this TOO much. Far too much.

We say no too often. We flee. When we don’t really know what’s going to happen tomorrow, or five minutes from now, or whatever. We don’t really know if we’ll wake up tomorrow morning – or if we’re going to trip walking down the stairs or walking the dog (especially if your dog is anything like my dog. He plots my demise EVERY day).

Today is, of course, Valentine’s Day. It’s a Hallmark holiday, and while I love any excuse to stuff my face with chocolate, it’s not really the DAY I care about. Love is more than doing what you’re supposed to do. It’s more than societal expectations. And no matter the day, it should be celebrated.

Out there, right now, is someone who is bricking up his/her heart. Right now, there is someone who has a laundry list of reasons why not. There is someone who feels something great and wonderful, but refuses to honor it. And that idea, that truth, breaks my heart more than anything else.

We spend too much energy conjuring up armor, keeping people at arm’s length. If that’s you, if you’re hiding behind x, y, and z – STOP. Hurl yourself into the dance, right straight where your heart lies. Anything less than everything is nothing more than fear. And yes, it’s a risk. And yes, the brick wall MIGHT fall on your head. But in doing so, maybe that’ll knock some sense into you. *blinks* I mean…

Love might be madness, but it is the very best madness.

the love poem I swore I’d never write

February 10, 2013 3 comments

the love poem I swore I’d never writ (I can’t seem to add the proper ‘e’ on the end of that. ARG.)

for you, I’d give up coffee. I’d
stop drinking, not hesitating
to spit out the wine in my mouth.
I would cross the street without looking,
strip off my clothes in silence, curl
my body around yours like a scream,
willingly kiss your secrets, your pain,
the wounds that walk in your smile.

for you, I’d sing softly, hold you
when you need it, without you
having to ask; just look at me like that
and I promise to fix it. don’t doubt
that I can and I will; my touch
is a miracle, footsteps over water,
enough bread to feed you
whether you’re starving
or just need a snack.

for you, I’d give up everything, cross
the country without blinking, cross a border,
cross an ocean, leave everything behind
without looking back. It will hurt,
but I would not regret it. I would go
wherever you go, because home
is not a place, it is not a state,
or a street; it does not have an address,
or a postmark; home is a kiss
and hungry fingers; home is love
confessed in a ragged breath;
home is you and me,
and us and we, and here
and this.

for you, I am,
nothing less
than always yes.

trust the fall

February 9, 2013 Leave a comment


on the outside, this is madness.
we are lunatics
screaming at the walls, fingers
fumbling for the lock
on the whiskey bottle,
lips parting like a reflex
as your hands
leave burn marks on my heart.
yes, madness.
yes, this.

on paper, this is madness.
we are an equation
without solution, infinity
bottomed out, a word
without definition,
a touch without conclusion –
a love like air
and ink, feelings
that flood everything else
until we are as perfect
as the rain.
yes, madness.
yes, this.

in theory, we are fallible.
our hearts are guilty
as a hangman’s noose,
reminding me
that our boots are bloody,
and still, I want to kiss you
too hard and forget to breathe,
because sometimes we
takes the place of I,
and if love is sin –
I couldn’t care less.
yes, madness.
yes, this.

light the fire.
shape the iron.
trust the fall.

Categories: I love you, Poetry

Is Love Stronger than a Mistake?

February 8, 2013 4 comments

Often times, our life is defined by what we do not know. Things kept hidden from us are, occasionally, more vital and more powerful than we realize. Confessing truths is the opposite side of this coin. Both are important. Both can be devastating.

In last night’s Scandal (Nobody likes Babies), everything and everyone on the show exploded and imploded in a painful array of fireworks. Let me just say that everyone on the show is so amazing that I cannot even compliment them enough. The characters were very true to form, and yet surprising as all hell. From Abby’s tour de force performance with David – who she does love – where she steals from him, going over the cliff for Olivia, and subsequently obliterates the last shard of their relationship. To Huck who keeps Hollis alive, and yet manages to look impressed and alarmed at the illicit recordings of Abby and David. To James and Cyrus, who had the most hilarious and yet poignant fight ever – stripped down to nothing, because ONE of them might be wearing a wire. Later, Cyrus nearly had James killed, but loved him too much. And James lied to a damn grand jury to save his husband. They are an amazing, if not slightly offbeat, couple. Because even when they’re mad and a weeeeee bit crazy, they’ve got each other’s back. Although, CYRUS RUTHERFORD BEENE. Please stop trying to murder people. It’s unseemly.

Speaking of unseemly, Verna turned out to be quite the villain (my only complaint, here, is that it almost seemed that her cancer was blamed on her previously nefarious dealing, which was kind of offensive to me, personally. ‘Cause cancer isn’t asshole-specific. But still.) Now, Verna seemed like such a sweet, strong lady – but turns out she not only helped to rig the election for her own gain, but then tried to kill the President in order to preserve her mothereffin’ reputation – only to accomplish the most devastating thing possible. She told Fitz the truth about the election. And then Fitz, who previously professed his love for Olivia and his intention to leave Mellie, killed her. Sure, she was dying anyway. And sure, she DID have him SHOT, along with an innocent woman. But Fitz, in a moment of blind fear, committed murder. Not exactly the most sane, rational, LEGAL, or moral decision. And yet, in that moment, Fitz was protecting everyone. It wasn’t just himself. Because Verna was going to come clean to David Rosen, the DA, and take everyone down with her. Talk about going out with a bang. Yes, Fitz’s presidency was in question. But I don’t think it was a purely selfish move. I think that Fitz was also protecting the people who, in the past, have protected him. While Cyrus has previously mentioned that they (the cabal) get their hands dirty so that people like Fitz don’t have to, when push came to shove? Fitz went over that fucking cliff without blinking. Decision made. Gloves off. White hat…basically in the garbage.

Which, of course, brings us to Fitz and Liv. Fitz asked Liv to wait for him, and she said she’ll think about it. He has made his decision. He knows where his heart lies. And he’s ready. It’s not just theoretical anymore. Check the scene. I’ll wait.

Edison shows up at Liv’s (stop showing up unannounced, btw, and then acting like a wounded puppy) and she begins to decline his proposal. Edison asks her to give him something to go on, some reason why she wouldn’t want to be a senator’s wife, have babies etc (which, interesting, were all status symbols – and NOT anything about him personally, or them as a couple. It was as if she filled role, instead of it being about who Olivia is, why they’re good together, and the love that they share. It was almost very…clinical).

Olivia: I don’t want normal and easy and simple. I want…I want…

Edison: What? What do you want?

Olivia: I want painful, difficult, devastating, life-changing extraordinary love. Don’t you want that too?

Edison: Love isn’t supposed to be painful or devastating. Love isn’t supposed to hurt, Liv.

Isn’t it, though? Think about all great loves. All epic, storybook, legendary loves. They’re not easy. They’re never safe. They have an element of pain, obstacles to overcome, and challenges. Great love is not something you find on the shelf at the drugstore. It’s not a flat, easy course. They are speedbumps, and ditches, and the occasional dragon. There are mistakes. But it’s not run-of-the-mill. It’s not a checklist kind of love. It’s extraordinary. And what extraordinary thing is easy?

Of course, Liv’s best efforts and intentions are shot to hell. Because Fitz’s heart is broken by Liv’s involvement with the election rigging. When Liv walks up to him right before Verna’s funeral starts, he echoes their argument in the rose garden, borrowing her line, “Did you need something?” He barely looks at her. He is deliberately trying to drive her away. When Olivia tells him that she gave Edison his ring back, and that she’ll wait for him as long as he needs, he blanches. Then he tells her that he changed his mind, calls her his mistress, and makes it clear that he knows. These are the actions of someone in pain, someone who is lashing out in anger. In defensiveness. Because of a betrayal.

And yet, the first thing that came to mind is a scene from season one, when Liv and Fitz were discussing another couple’s situation. Fitz said, “I think that love, at the end of the day, is stronger than some mistakes somebody made.” We will see if this philosophy plays out. Perhaps we’ll see Liv refuse to run away for once – because we’ll see her stand up for their love, instead of Fitz. At the close of the episode, we have this emotionally wretched, yet romantically awkward, scene between Fitz and Mellie. Fitz is this wounded shell of himself, and he rushes back to what is familiar. Somehow, he can excuse Mellie’s involvement in the rigging, because she’s “always been honest” about who she is. And yet, she HID it from Fitz, too. Just like Cyrus. And Hollis. Verna and Olivia. But Fitz, sinking in his scotch again, isn’t himself. He asks Mellie if she loves him, and she says yes. He says that he has no one, and then uses a line that he’s used with Olivia, “Then we’re in this together. We have to be in this together. ’Cause I don’t have anybody else – I don’t. You’re all I have.”

In a moment of pain, feeling betrayed, Fitz pushed Olivia away. He didn’t even give her the decency of a discussion. He doesn’t realize that what she did, she did for love – for him. It really didn’t serve her purposes at all. She compromised herself for her feelings. Did the wrong thing for the right reasons. And Fitz runs back to Mellie. Aside from the WTFery of the whole murder thing, this made me want to smack Fitz. Because while no one is perfect, and what Olivia did is wrong, no one wears the White Hat. He isn’t perfect. And yet, as she’s falling down from this pedestal he placed Olivia on, he judges her for it. Love isn’t about perfection. It’s not about what’s easy. It’s about seeing someone, flaws and all, and loving them anyway. In the past, Olivia has loved Fitz for all his faults. At the first real test of his love and resolve, he flees. Oh, he’s hurt. Understandably so. But running away is the act of a coward. And here I thought that love is supposed to stronger than the mistakes we make.

I suppose that is a thing that only time will tell.

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