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when honesty is vulnerability


You know, I think I’m having a moment. I put two things out into the universe, both of which give me pause. I always feel, in those instances, in a post-SEND haze, that I’m doing everything wrong. Life takes a lot of courage, sometimes – to share something with the world, to tell the truth, to make a phone call, to ask for what you want. Life, if you’re doing it right, is full of scary things. Like risk and feelings.

A few minutes ago, I couldn’t shake the feeling that I’m doing EVERYTHING wrong. And, hang on, where did THAT come from? I’m someone who, fumbling or not, tries. That’s not wrong. That’s not easy, but it’s not wrong. So, that feeling? It’s just insecurity and fear. I know that. I also know that there is often no right decision – only what you do and what you don’t do.

So, in case you’re having this kind of insecure, what the hell am I doing? kind of day – you’re not alone. Be brave, darlings. Make art, and sent it into the word. Create and share. Lather, rinse, repeat. Reach out. And this is important: let people in.

If you like, tell me about the last thing you made. It doesn’t matter what it is. Tell me, too, about the last real risk you took. Do you regret it?

  1. November 19, 2012 at 2:08 pm

    Yay, Ali, for sending out your stories! *hugs*

    I’m fighting my way through that same insecurity. I have three pieces I’m currently working on–or, to be more honest, fiddling with–but I can’t bring myself to finish. I’ve found every other thing to do but write. You should see my house. It’s so clean!

  2. November 19, 2012 at 7:56 pm

    I think everyone at some point feels like they are doing everything wrong. The last real risk I took was leaving my old job and starting a new one with a 48-minute commute. I can’t say I enjoy commuting that long back and forth every day, but I can say I like my new job a lot better than my old one. 🙂

  3. Jessica
    November 25, 2012 at 11:35 am

    You know me, and you know that I take as many risks as I possibly can. I throw myself at the world with open arms praying that someone or something, somewhere, will catch me and make me feel alive. And I definitely have those moments where I’m like “JESUS CHRIST ON A CRACKER WHAT DID I JUST DO!” but, as Daenerys would say, if I look back, I am lost.

  4. Lucy
    November 28, 2012 at 10:38 am

    I don’t remember the last real risk I took, not because I didn’t take one but because I have the worst memory in the world. I have decided though that if I am going to take a risk, it’s bloody well going to be a worthwhile one. I’ve become very cautious about putting my heart or my business out on display because a few times I’ve done it I’ve gotten burned. If I feel it’s been worth it to be burned I decide the risk is worthwhile. If it’s not worth it, then I don’t take that kind of risk again.

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